If Not You ... Who Are You?

Unconditional love means maintaining a commitment 

that no condition will keep us from bringing all who we

are to each other honestly."

Mark Nepo

Unconditional love is not about allowing others to treat us badly whether physical or emotional.  It is unavoidable to hurt each others feelings from time to time, but it is an opportunity to forgive and bring us closer together.  It is also about being honest about what we are thinking or how we are presenting ourselves.

Unconditional love is being committed to who we are and not being deceptive. If our behavior creates disharmony, we must be accountable for what we have unconsciously or consciously done. If we do not expose who we truly are to those we love, how will we ever know if they are loving what we falsely project or what is hidden beneath?

Intimacy (In-to-me-you-see) aught not be based on false representation.  The object of self-disclosure is honoring the self and hoping we will be loved, scars and all.  Hiding is similar to a lying as it continues to grow and move people farther apart not together.  In true relationship, we ask to be accepted as we are not as how the world wishes us to be.