Highly Difficult Passage

"In my experience, people who have been hurt either

pass it on and become abusive themselves or

they develop a great kindness."

Louise Penny,  STILL LIFE

Social histories reflect a child from an alcoholic family is likely to choose a partner who is alcoholic.  The same is true for domestic violence.  The child who grew up with physical aggressiveness may reflect aggression themselves or choose a violent partner.  Even if we abhor certain behaviors, we very well may need assistance in shifting what remains hidden within.

We all have choices, but they cannot be made until we acknowledge the presence of what needs to be unlearned.  We have patterns running through our life that often are over looked or ignored.  Repetition continues until the lesson is so harsh we are forced to face reality.

Our ego deceives us, and it is easier to 'go along' than to muster the courage to face the obvious need for change.  Whether unhealthy eating habits, hoarding, or promiscuity, we first must stop listening to the voice of ego telling us we are okay.  It takes courage and determination to change and it is a highly difficult passage; but at the end, we see life anew.