In the Midst of People

"When you're surrounded by all these people, 

it can be lonelier than when you're by yourself.

You can be in a huge crowd,

but if you don't feel like you can trust anyone 

or talk to anybody,

you feel like you're really alone."

Fiona Apple

Christmas time triggers emotional responses that are normally repressed.  Strange memories float to the surface and we are reminded of being alone or ignored or desperately unhappy.  Standing in the midst of people, we can thoroughly experience the sense of solitude or isolation.

The holidays do not have to be a time for sadness.  We make the choice of what we will dwell upon.  We select the topic and extend the energy to be lulled into pain or to extend our will to create warmth and acceptance. 

In spite of our wounds, we have the choice to create an aura of calm.  Self-nurturing can heal us in a moment, lift our spirits, and create a life we want to live.  It is not easy to do, but it is totally possible.  So instead of dwelling on pain, we can create a safe space where we can rest, recharge, and survive within the holiday spirit.