"If people would simply pay attention to the harmony or disharmony within themselves, they would be able to eliminate the arduous and impossible task of trying to control the behaviors of others."
Abraham
When my granddaughter was three years old, my son was holding her over his head, letting her fly through the air. They were both laughing, engaged in play, but my granddaughter said, "I've got you daddy!" Her perception was interesting as he was the one totally supporting her above his head.
This same little girl wore a velvet court jester's hat on her head every day, even at bedtime. The strange part was that she always seemed to be examining me, deep in thought, as a very old soul. Her eyes never wavered, and they seemed to penetrate deeply into my essence. "What do you see?" I would ask her. She replied with silence.
Her father was the same way. He too was an observer of others. Neither he nor his daughter were out going, but nothing ever escaped their eyes. Without judgement or any need for control, these two peas in a pod learned through observation as silent observers.
Too often we feel the need to 'fix' someone. Our ego implies we have the answers to the problems of others, distracting us from any needed alteration of our own. The irony is what we are drawing attention to in others is exactly what we should addressing within ourselves.
My son and grandchild may have been more aligned to the human experience by just being present in some one's life, rather than being an invasive participant. They were the witness to a life unfolding without any driven need to interfere.
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