Pumped Up

"It is the absence of facts that frightens people;

the gap you open, into which they pour

their fears, fantasies, desires."

Hilary Mantel

We trust ourselves so little, we give entirely too much value on outside sources.  It is important for all of us to accept to be human is to err.  Everyone experiences poor decisions or disharmony, but we do not always see it.

At a recent gathering, a woman announced her most recent project ... a flower garden.  She was very excited in sharing her successes and her ability to learn from mistakes.  She clearly displayed her investment of time and knowledge by her most recent excursions to Master Gardeners and workshops at local nurseries.  Indeed, she was riding waves of excitement.

Unfortunately, another woman who considers herself to be far more experienced in gardening, began to ask  multiple questions without waiting for answers.  One could easily see the joy fading from the novice gardener's expression.  She was subjected to harsh assessments of her progress and doubt plus confidence slid off her face.

The critical woman acted innocent and stated she was simply trying to 'help' the other, even though help had not been solicited.   It was very sad to watch enthusiasm escape from a new project like air from a leaking balloon.

At times, it is best to choose our audience carefully when sharing new visions, discoveries, or adventures.  Let a sense of confidence grow prior to reporting plans.  Remain focused on the goal preparing each step towards it.  Others will not deflate us if we keep our selves appropriately pumped up!