"People leave traces of themselves where they feel most
comfortable, most worthwhile."
Haruki Murakami
Relationships can be quite diverse, each adding to segments of our life. We may have professional associations, social connections and emotional bonds. Although these may differ, each one contributes to our sense of identity. We may be teaching or learning, hopefully with a sense of honesty and leaving a sense of self.
Monitoring a relationship as it deepens, one notices if there is a sense of curiosity drawing our attention or small flares of caution. Do we feel our boundaries need to be raised and our opinions altered or are walls lowered as we feel seen and appreciated? If there is room for expansion and growth, the importance of the connection increases.
There are connections that last a lifetime, and some that are simply outgrown. If we no longer feel respected or heard, if we can no longer simply be ourselves, and the quality of the attachment diminishes, perhaps, it is time to let go. Find an honorable way to lessen our presence without placing blame or judgement.
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