"There are two ways of meeting difficulties.
You alter the difficulties or
you alter yourself to meet them."
Phylliss Bottome
When we knowingly engage in activities that create disharmony, we are not making decisions to strengthen our life experience. We simply forget to be creative in our choices.
A dear friend begs us to attend an opera with her even though she knows we don't care for it. We want to be a good friend, we don't want to disappoint and so we acquiesce. We end up experiencing resentment for not using our time beneficially.
If we are invited to have dinner out and it is not to our liking, we can be creative and say 'No, but how about breakfast?" It then becomes clear that we are not avoiding a person, but choosing to use our time in harmony with our spirit.
If we are invited to attend an amusement park with our extended family, knowing our physical limitations will drain every ounce of joy out of us, we can once again become creative. We can decline the trip, but offer to host a gathering when the family returns to view pictures and share stories of the trip.
Compromise offers balance. A person will not feel rejected if we offer a different plan. Naturally we cannot always have things our way, but we can develop a deeper respect for ourselves and maintain respect for others.
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