The Witness

"The most precious gift we can offer anyone

is our attention.  When mindfulness embraces

those we love they will bloom like flowers."

Thich Nhat Hanh

We unfortunately assume we are required to have therapeutic responses when we are in the presence of someone who is lost in struggle.  As they speak, we are rapidly thinking of replies that will encourage, support and fix the problem being shared.  In truth, the struggling individual is needing someone who will quietly listen.

The person who is stuck in chaos is best helped when he or she can just release the pain, loss or fear that is causing discomfort within.  The one speaking needs to hear thoughts out loud so they can sort through random feelings and detect what is at the heart of the matter.

Our simple attention, eye to eye contact without interruption is a gift we can offer.  We give the troubled person a safe place to release without feeling judged.  He or she is wanting to be heard and to be truly seen.  They will appreciate and feel gratitude for us to simply be a witness.