Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Life Unfolding

 

 
girl to girl
Ganna Walska in LOTTUSLAND
 
 
 
"A new view of a situation
is just what we need
to answer a difficult question or
see something we've been missing."
 
Madisyn Taylor
DAILY OM
 
 
 
Whether intentional or not, we have a tendency to bias our answers before we ask the question.  If we want to discuss religion, we confer with our religious friend.  If we want to talk about an affair, we have a private conversation with someone we know who has had an affair.  If we are seeking answers to parenting, we chat with friends who have children.  In this way, we have narrowed the field of response.
 
It is in our best interest to broaden the scope of resolution.  There is greater risk in presenting our question to someone we do not normally associate with the subject, but we may be surprised by new information causing a greater shift from our previous perspective.
 
As human beings, our feelings are hurt when we learn of someone's deception.  Rarely, however, do we monitor our personal feelings when we deceive our selves.  When we knowingly turn our head from what our mind is thinking, our voice is saying or our hands are doing, we are causing great damage to ourselves. 
 
So let us be gently reminded of the practice of sitting on our own shoulder, watching and observing our thoughts and actions closely.  Pause before responding.  In that instant check in with self and see if we are being a robot automatically responding or if we are answering with our authentic voice. 
 
If we feel we do not have the right answer, then begin the search for what is missing.  If the situation or conversation does not feel whole, then look for what is hidden.  The key is always to alter our steps, to be willing to embrace change, and to appreciate life unfolding.

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