Extending Peace

 

 

 

 

I am at peace with everyone. No one is capable of making you upset without your consent, so if you begin practicing the intention to be authentic and peaceful with everyone, you connect to peace itself—and gain the power to change the energy of your relationships with family and friends. Wayne Dyer The writings of Wayne Dyer have been on my book shelf longer than many others.  His work came to my attention very early on, and I am encouraged to report he has grown, evolved, and stayed very much the same person.  He never got carried away by fame or changed his statements in order to fit in with current thought.  He stayed true to himself and has prospered.  I admire him and still enjoy his books very much. In one of his recent writings, he was talking about the price we pay for not being authentic to others.  We personally pay a price for not being real.  To change this way of interacting, we first must start with our selves.  We must assess how we view ourselves as well as others.  Part of this is about judgment of ourselves and others.  People treat us however we allow them to, so we ourselves have set the pattern.  So we can decide that on a certain level, we forgive ourselves as well as others and begin again.  While we place our focus on peace, criticism of others and of ourselves falls away.  We consciously choose to live in the moment which is filled with calm.  We need to let go of others, allowing them be however they feel they need to be, and respect ourselves enough to be able to meet and greet without stirring all of our emotions to the fore front. We have no control over others, so we cannot truly change them.  We can change, however, how we present to them.  If we are offering them peace, we are respecting our personal preference for peace at all times.  We can openly come into contact, extending acceptance, and then excuse ourselves.  Our goal is not to suddenly become super peaceful and throw ourselves into a den of vipers.  Remember, we change only ourselves. So when come face to face with our least favorite relative or friend, we can quietly say to our selves, "I meet you with peace."  It no longer matters how they act or what they say.  We stayed aligned with peace, remain authentic, and move along. When we realize that others are reacting to life based on their own personal experiences, we no longer take things so personally.  Their issues are just that ... their issues.  When we can be thankful for the lesson they have taught us we allow forgiveness to override our association with emotional pain.  Some of our best teachers have been those who have deeply hurt us. As we continue to nurture ourselves, we find the opinions others have about us mean less and less.  Our personal assessment is far more important.  Connected with our soul in the presence of the Divine, we are able to extend peace to others without going against ourselves. (Based on a writing by Wayne Dyer) drwaynedyer.com