Beyond Judgment

 

 

 

"Love is the light that dissolves

all walls between souls."

 

Paramahansa Yogananda 

 

 

When our core grows stronger and we are more comfortable in our true self, it is easier to let down the walls and embrace others. Being open and being vulnerable are two different things. It is somewhat easy to be open to other peoples ideas, intentions, and dreams, as it requires us to simply listen without filters.  I can do this and I can do this well.

 

Being vulnerable is an entirely different calling.  It invites us to stand without protection of any kind.  It requires us to be who we truly are even though we have faults, weaknesses, and negative reflections.  Vulnerable, we extend love to ourselves and others, creating a space to connect to all that is. 

 

Love is truly a light capable of leading us into and out of darkness of many shapes and forms.   Love is a form of energy that emits positive frequencies in preparation to accept all others.  Love does not mean condoning violence or abuse of any kind, but it does ask us to see through the actions without judgment and love the soul hidden inside. 

 

I once knew a senior volunteer who looked like the perfect image of a loving grandmother.  She met with a young high school student who had giant holes in his ears, tattoos, and piercings.  He approached this volunteer situation with great skepticism.  For six weeks, the grandma volunteer sat listening, nodding her head and never breaking eye contact.  The teen talked the entire hour spilling out garbage to shock the elder, but without any reaction from her, he eventually expressed deep hidden feelings.  At the end of the six weeks, the young man said this elder was the wisest woman he had ever met.   She had never said one word.

I like to think of love as air, gently floating above, below, and through us, forming an invisible sense of comfort.   It penetrates walls, it heals old wounds, and it helps us feel connected to others ... pets, nature, or friends.  Love can be a silent embrace or words unspoken. It can be gestures or acts of kindness. Sometimes love calls us to just be present to witness life.

 



You Can't Hide ...

“One thing you can't hide -

is when you're crippled inside.”

                                                                    John Lennon



We have a tendency to hide when things go wrong.   A coping skill is to withdraw, to hide until we can be better balanced.  We can wear masks and even costumes to distract those surrounding us, as we fear the real 'self' might be discovered. 

Sometimes we think we are masters of disguise when in reality, the people we have chosen to surround us may not really care.  They may notice we are somewhat altered, but if they indeed are not kindred spirits, they may ignore us anyway.  Most the time when we think we are playing our best performance, people who truly care see right through it.

We must choose our friends wisely, finding a balance and harmony.  When we depart from a friend we are thankful for the time just shared.  We do not feel drained or depleted.  We know our friend will openly listen to us without overreacting or passing the information on to others. 

We feel better about our selves when we realize everyone has something they feel they need to hide.  We all have negative factors we need to overcome or improve upon.  There are times when we feel a part of our self is ugly or distorted, but it may be a total illusion of our own personal judgment.  We learn to embrace other peoples imperfection, faster than our own.  

When some of us were children, we were told we were sinners and would always be sinners ... quite a burden for a child to carry.  So years of learning need to unfold to alleviate false impressions of shame or guilt.  In order to be whole, we must not hide.

We are all just a bunch of frogs

wanting to be loved

warts and all!