Who Are You When It Is All Stripped Away?

"As an independent woman, you are not defined by your partner or

your parents.  You are defined by you."

Kailin Gow

Years in the 1940's and in the 1950's, female  children were groomed to be a wife.  A wife was a brainless woman, keeping all thoughts to herself, positioned herself to be a doormat for her mate, and created life in the glory of his name.  Then came children for which the mother was to give up all sense of self to devote every ounce of energy upon the wee ones until they left the nest.    It was this point, a woman could return to her desires or passions, except she was so exhausted it was difficult to think of who you ever were.

In the 1960's and the 1970's the pendulum for women swung towards liberation.  It was a time go barefoot, grow long hair, and burn your bra.  If a woman participated in this growing idea of women being equal, she was likely to be discarded by her family and to be determined never to marry, but have babies.

The 1980  and the 1990 years brought the pendulum more towards the center, and intelligent women began the long road towards serious acceptance; but there was lower pay and plenty of disrespect.  Observers held great anticipation for failure. And yet, we proceeded into the new millennium banning together and becoming a force to be reckoned with.  How is you define your lovely self?