AFFIRMATION: "When I nurture and take care of myself, my creative ideas and abilities awaken more fully and I am
free to participate in more of the wonders and joyous experiences of life."
Sharon Taphorn
Angel Wisdom
During the holidays, I visited with a family who is dear to me. The mother is nearing 100 years old and her loving nature has turned cantankerous. I was more shocked at the daughter's appearance than that of the mother. She was rail thin, emotionally depleted, and felt overwhelmed by the responsibility of her mother. I could not help but ponder, "What happens when the caretaker does not take care of herself?"
Why is it when it comes to self-nurture, women in particular worry about being selfish. There is some element of martyrdom when a mom makes sure she is always last to the helpings. A woman generally has a care taker's attitude to begin with, but when it becomes extended at a cost to herself, it is self-destruction.
It is similar to ... 'what comes first the cart of the horse' ... if the caretaker is not well taken care of, how in the world will she give good care? When we take maintain balanced self-care, we have more to offer others. We have more endurance and patience than if we neglect our own needs. It is at that point we become resentful, unappreciated, and angry.
As we care for our families, extended families, neighbors or friends, we must first be receptive to help from others or from our very selves. In addition to being receptive, we must also be willing to allow ourselves time to play for renewal of spirit. When we remember to restore prior to becoming depleted, we will be a brighter light in our world.
So true. When I cared for my mother and mother-in-law as the moved through their end-of-life experience, I was honored to participate, but it did take it's toll on my personal health. It has taken several years to regain my vigor.
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