"God knows that a mother needs fortitude and courage and tolerance
and flexibility and patience and firmness and nearly every other brave
aspect of the human soul."
Phyllis McGinely
Inspirational quotes are everywhere for Mother's Day, but very few address the scars, loss, and heartache experienced by some mothers. Situations created by a miscarriage, childhood illness, divorce or dysfunctional families are not recognized in the lofty celebration.
We carry with us the imprint of our own mother whether it is positive or negative. Our experience shades our own ability to parent. With unavailable ways to honor the mother who has lost a child, many women dread Mother's day. The childless, the abandoned, and the elder may not be as jubilant as society promotes this seemingly sacred day.
It helps if we set healthy boundaries for ourselves. If the family gather rips a wound wide open, then perhaps he or she should not attend. Promote self-value by recalling purposeful times throughout life which did highlight a challenging life. During the holiday, gather with kindred spirits who will lift us up and remind us how to thrive. If we have been lost in the pace of society and children cannot return home, in memory revisit times that were loving and kind.
(Thoughts promoted by Bethany Webster, THE MOTHER'S WOUND)
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