The Arrow and the Hole

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"Take criticism seriously, but not personally. If there

 is truth or merit in the criticism, try to learn from it.

Otherwise, let it roll right off you."

Hillary Clinton

When someone's words strike a personal and negative chord within, it is important to follow it down to its origin.  Criticism may have nothing to do with the moment, but may trigger unhealed bruising within.  This would be a situation where the past is coloring our perception of the present.

Shoot an arrow into the side of a barn.  Remove the arrow and notice how the hole continues to remain indefinitely.   This can be true of our careless or judgmental words we sling at one or others.  Even if we apologize, the damage has been done.

As we are confronted, we can listen for truth as a guide to improve.  If harsh words truly do not resonate, simply let them go.  Retaliation or casting our own dark words is unnecessary and only digs  holes deeper.  

 

Nay Sayers and Moving Along

"Take criticism seriously, but not personally. If 
there is truth or merit in the criticism, try to learn from it.  

Otherwise, let it roll right off you."

Hillary Clinton

We receive insight when we remain open to conversations whether religious, political or socially orientated. When a discussion begins and we feel our eyes roll to the back of our heads, we need to regroup.  Instead of listening so closely, it might be interesting to simply observe facial expression, tone level, or other remarkable reactions.  

While we listen to the passion of others, we do not have to agree or disagree, but we can have an appreciation for the unique style of expression. The reverse, of course, would be someone criticizing our contribution to a conversation. It is healthy to step back and consider the content of what was said.  

Can we be accountable or have we been misunderstood? Have we been speaking through a narrow scope of our own making? Are the listeners not on the same level .... whether the subject is cooking, exercise, or political freedom?

The best response to nay sayers is to thank them for sharing their perspective and then move along.