Holding Space

"When we are looking for compassion, we need someone who is deeply rooted,

 is able to bend, and most of all, embraces us for our strengths and struggles."

Brene Brown 

Holding space for someone means that we allow that person to simply be present in whatever challenge they find themselves. We embrace the other without judgment or criticism. There is no need for us to have a perfect answer or offerings of wisdom. It is the atmosphere of safety that we provide and  a matter of opening our hearts with unconditional support. 

With pure acceptance, we offer an arena for spewing all thoughts, emotions, and fears. We allow the person to simply release all that is challenging them without placating or minimizing his or her journey. We simply observe as they grieve, unleash and struggle to find an element of reconciliation. As a calm witness, we do not attempt to evaluate, fix, or change the other person.

Being present for others develops the skill of being still. This ability can be used to create  harmony in our own lives. We can hold a space of safety to release our own pain and sorrow, allowing clarity to surface. Allowing the self to bend and reshape, we move through pain and sorrow in order to recall our own essence of loving kindness.