Windows to the Soul

"A woman's eyes cut deeper than a knife."

Robert Jordan

The first thing I notice about a person is their eyes. Do I hold their attention or do they waver away from my stare?  In body language, the eyes can be most revealing.  If the person's eyes stray to their left, they are trying to remember or reminisce.  If they move to their right, they are being more creative as a diversion or in creating a version of what is being discussed.  

Rapid eye movement can indicate impulsive decision making.  The more fatigued a person, the slower the eye movement.  Making moral decisions can be influenced by where the eyes are looking. While accessing visual memories, a person might glance upwards; whereas, glancing down could be accessing kinesthetic memories.  When someone gazes into our eyes, they are either feeling socially comfortable, attempting to establish intimacy or an attempt to control.  

Eye movements help us to understand others better, as well as monitoring our own reactions.  Personally, eye contact is very important to me when communicating with others.  The visual actions such as eyes enlarging in surprise, eyes squinting with suspicion or eyes shutting to hide pain.  Indeed, the eyes are the windows to the soul.