Align Boundaries

"Don't take it personally when I tell you 'No'.

I'm using it on everyone this year."

Lena Dunham

As a child, the word no was associated with defiance, disobedience and rejection; whereas the word yes was identified with being compliant, cooperative, and accepted.  The words right and wrong worked similarly ...  do the right thing and never do wrong.  

As an adult, the word no supports my need to preserve, to protect, and to align; whereas the word yes creates individual freedom, pleasure in choice, and personal balance.  Similarly, what is right for me just might be wrong for one other. 

Why is it then we continue to agree to terms we find disagreeable and engage in tasks that are right for someone, but definitely wrong for us?  It is no wonder our boundaries are repeatedly disrespected and our self-esteem wallows in pressured decisions.   We are called to decide, to use our voice to declare either yes or no and to define our right from wrong.  If we view our lovely selves as a vortex of spiritual wisdom, we will be empowered to align boundaries with our heart's desire.