"We cannot live without being affected by others, but we are only real when
we let truth and love shape us from within."
Mark Nepo
There are times when we grow weary of exchanges with others, especially if they have a preachy tone to them. We want to be respectful but sometimes we have simply heard enough. Something that works well in this situation, is to pay attention to their feelings rather than their words.
Look into the eyes to see if there is joy or sorrow. Are they even looking directly at us while having this discussion? Perhaps their arms are flying around or pointing at us as though we were at fault. Notice if their body is tight or stiff creating rigid effect. Be aware if the body is allowing a respectful space or moving towards us in a threatening way.
Often times it is what's hidden in our heart that pushes words harshly out of our mouths. We may not even be aware of the inner conflict prompting our rhetoric. This is what happens when we are not aligned ... body, mind, and spirit. With this newly gathered information, our words may take on a more helpful tone when responding to this exchange.
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