Anger and Sorrow

"If you are patient in one moment of anger,

you will escape a hundred days of sorrow."

Chinese Proverb

Anger was prevalent while growing up, and I vowed never to be angry, which of course caused resentment, repression, and denial of how I felt.  Information about how to handle anger was never available nor was it role modeled.  Through reading, I finally became curious and learned actions like screaming into a pillow and yelling into my diary.

It is foolish to believe we will be able to avoid anger whether it is our own or someone else's. Through trial and error we begin to learn appropriate ways to voice our anger.  Ideally, we can remain silent until we can work through our inner anger, but there are times the present moment is when it needs to be stated.  It is wise to have respect for who is present, but to have an artillery of acceptable words helps us to speak our feelings.

As we advance further into life we become more skillful in choosing words that are appropriate and navigate challenges more articulate manner.  We will have compassion for others and maintain a wider view of life experiences.  We will not feel the drive to 'verbally' attack.  We will choose to listen without comment, still respecting our own personal views.