"I'm not crying because of you, you're not worth it.
I'm crying because my delusion of who you were
was shattered by the truth of who you are."
Steve Maraboli
It is an error to see only the spiritual side of someone, overlooking the human side. There is no need to judge human error, but it is healthier to be aware of its presence. If we anticipate impossible expectations, we will ultimately be let down; and we will be angry at the human rather than our lovely selves.
In couples counseling, it is apparent that both parties are responsible. Maybe one person has dominated with 97 percent negative behavior, but the other person needs to examine the 3 percent of their own. Do we see our partner as we want them to be or how they really are? Are we projecting false expectations and then broken hearted when the results fall short?
Once we begin to see others as they really are we will have better clarity. We will no longer be delusional about relationships. The idea of changing someone sabotages honor and respect of others. If we continue to be extremely distraught over the actions of others, taking a long look at what part we played will initiate healing. We can let go of the drama and focus on our actions, gaining better insight into our amazing selves.
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