"Staying connected, even when things aren't ideal, can
mean learning how to navigate challenges in a way
that protects your mental health."
Nedra Glover
Once we move beyond the 'either~or' scenario, new understanding can surface. Strengthening boundaries for emotional, physical, and spiritual security is important, but we have other choices beyond fight or flight. Elasticity in both our thinking and presence allows wiggle room for an element of mutual acceptance or tolerance.
Remembering that we have choice can adjust involvement, commitment, and relationship. In some instances, we can maintain a friendship while taking a time out. We can reduce drama by reducing exposure to news, limit engagement with those who annoy us, and redefine how and where we spend our time.
We delude ourselves by thinking we have to declare a reason for change in our decisions, but this is not true. We can gently decline by simply saying, "Maybe another time". We can shift topics to release discomfort. Enlarge the group, rather than exclusive one on one. If these attempts do not help, then sadly, it may be time to let go.
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