"You'll never cross an emotional bridge,
if you keep rushing back to the other side."
T.F. Hodge
We falsely believe automatic responses will be the fastest way to end a conversation; however, if the response is not specific to our current position, we give misleading impressions. Once we realize the miscommunication, we extend the conversation to clear things up. In reality, we are being roped in to areas we do not care to be.
If we have responded too harshly, we may want to smooth things over. If we have commented too abruptly, we may choose to extend the exchange. Either way, we are being led back into an area we did not want to discuss. So we find our lovely selves responding emotionally rather than from our established opinion.
When we are comfortable with our personal belief system and we have taken time to educate ourselves, we will not waiver from one conversation to another. We leave ourselves open for new information, but we are not misled into pockets we have already emptied. We can remain silent or shift the focus back onto the other person. Let them talk and feel in control, but we maintain our own power without regurgitating the past that no longer concerns us.
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