Eyes of Anger

"A heart filled with anger has no room for love."

Joan Lunden

Anger is actually a secondary emotion, triggered by a first emotion we could not withstand.   When we cannot tolerate the first emotion we quickly move to the secondary emotion of anger.  We bury the true pain underneath our anger.  Until we release our anger, our buried emotion floods us with no room for healing thought and promotes withdrawal.

As we look through the eyes of anger, we cannot see beauty or kindness.  We burn impulsively looking for ways to act out. It is healthy to act out anger if it harms no one or nothing.  Beating a pillow, weeding a garden, chopping wood or writing are just some positive outlets for anger.  It is imperative to release our anger in appropriate ways before it takes a toll on our health ... stress, heart attack, accidents.

It is unhealthy to ignore buried emotions.  They must be brought to the surface and dealt with through non-emotional choices.  What was the lesson?  What am I to learn?  In time, how do I benefit from this experience?  Successfully embracing the emotion we are no longer stuck and we are once again free to live life fully.