Connection As An Exchange

"Communication is merely an exchange of information, but

connection is an exchange of our humanity."

Sean Stephenson

We may have a huge vocabulary, but words are just words unless spoken from the heart. We might speak numerous languages, but nothing touches the soul like an authentic love language. It is a misunderstanding to think if we raise our voice, we will increase communication. In fact, connection is strengthened by gently speaking soul to soul.

We have our own opinions to be shared calmly, while understanding that listeners may or may not agree. Our words are meant to be a reflection of the self and not an ultimatum to others. We exchange ideas with open minds willing to learn or simply disagree without punishment or judgment.

We can think of ourselves as trees thriving on this earth. Our leaves and shapes may be different, but our branches seek the light. Side by side, we can generate an atmosphere without judgment or penalty for who we choose to be. We can offer shade and shelter creating a forrest of kind humanity. 

When Women Stand Up!

"Each time a woman stands up for herself, without

knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she

stands up for all women."

Maya Angelou

When you speak your truth, you are teaching others how to speak theirs. And as we feel empowered by the use of our voice, we make a difference not only in our own lives, but in the lives of those who are present. When we speak out rather than being silent, other women hear us as well as the next generation rising around us.

When we align ourselves with inner guidance, experience and communication, momentum is gained. We become propelled forward. Using connections, we become educated through the diversity of others. Through the use of visualization, prayer, and communication with nature, our authenticity becomes more apparent filling us with confidence and drive.

As individual women, asserting our intelligence and life experience, balance begins to be restored. While we join with other women, integrity, diversity and empowerment escort us towards freedom, justice, and peace. When women help women, amazing things happen. Stand up and be heard. Use your voice and stand out! 

 

Power In The Feminine Voice

"Women will starve in silence until

new stories are created which confer

on them the power of naming themselves."

Sarah Gilbert/Susan Gubar

Think of how many times you held your lovely self back from voicing an opinion. Perhaps you checked yourself so no one would be offended or you wouldn't be scorned. There are times you are striving to be the perfect daughter, mate or friend, and therefore stifle your thoughts because what do you know, anyway?

The damage is not about trying to be perfect at all cost, but silencing our truth. There may be an underlying fear that what we think may be entirely wrong. When you are wanting to be loved, respected and valued, do you play things small? Why risk being ridiculed or simply wrong when silence can mask your fears?

Silence is not always a safe space as it can breed self-loathing and disconnection. Stifling our truths and aspirations can lead to physical, emotional and spiritual dysfunction. Speak up as you will learn through the experience. Share your story and encourage others to do the same. You will gather kindred spirits and be loved for who you truly are.

 

Creating Safe Space

"We can't be brave in the big world without at least one

small safe space to work through our fears and falls."

Brene Brown

The best present ever does not come in a special box, wrapped in fancy paper with a frilly bow. The most valuable gift is the safe space created between friends. It is an area where truths can be told, extreme emotions released, and no judgment exists. The event itself will not be brought up again, unless self initiated. 

In the safe space between friends, each person is embraced, valued, and supported. There is room to eliminate doubt, criticism and misconceptions. There may be a need to scream as loudly as we can or we may be held in stillness wrapped in compassion and tenderheartedness. Permission is lavished for the ability to stand tall, being just as we are. 

For each other, we become a light in the darkness, a whisper in the chaos, and an unbreakable connection. Masks can be discarded, and together walking forward confidence and hope are built for brighter days. One does not hide in a safe space, he or she rests and restores. The unbreakable bond is a treasure that no one can take awaqy.

Join With Friends

"A friend is someone who knows all about you

and still loves you."

Elbert Hubbard

A new month is opening before us and it will be laced with activities, gatherings, and holidays. We adjust to both time change, and climate change. It is imperative that we completely let go of any residue and strengthen our foundation. It is time to join with friends to be reminded of who we are and how we want to be.

Being with friends can hold us more accountable and reflect our best qualities. We are reminded of what is important and how to adjust our boundaries. Friends stabilize us and offer a safe space to bare our soul. They offer the opportunity to realistically realign our thinking as we review our upcoming changes.

Gathering with friends prior to the the forthcoming seasonal changes, we are able to praise our them and verbalize just how important their presence means to us. We can offer them reflections of their own best qualities and support them while they, too, move forward. Friendship is a two way connection needing updating, refurbishing and praise.