Another Way of Speaking ...

Maybe that's why

I want to touch people so often --

it's only another way of talking.

Georgia O'Keeffe

While experiencing the lessons of life there are a multitude of emotional stages.  There are instances when we try to talk our way around the problem or sit in denial.  Other times we may be harsh and aggressive or accusing and judgmental.  When tired of talking and losing sight of healthy options, we may withdraw into isolation dissolving into tears and exhaustion.

By sitting in silence the shell of protection grows stronger around us encircling our spirit with sadness and loss.  Asking for help seems impossible as we fear yet another rejection.  It is difficult to admit we have needs so we remain stuck within our shell.

Then the miracle happens!  A friend or stranger steps forward and wraps our wounded self safely into her or his arms.  This simple gesture of communication breaks through our defenses and the pent up emotions are released.  Once again we can feel as though we have returned to a place of love or comfort where we can begin to feel worthy and accepted.

A hug is such a simple gesture and yet it silently speaks a world of healing words.  It is a form of communication without any language barrier that everyone can embrace and understand whether giving or receiving.

So when we, as loving human beings, have the sense that we are ill prepared to find the perfect words to assist a friend in need, remember the hug.  It is frequently more potent than well intentioned phrases, and it melts down the self-imposed isolation.  It is a language we are all capable of speaking!