Equation with Integrity

 

"There is a huge difference between letting your darkness

suck you under, and willingly making the sacred descent."

Toko-pa Turner

Will we face our challenges flaying and screaming or will we become an observer of the change within and the shift outside?  As we sink into dark thoughts, we can feel with our imagination, mud sucking on our feet or we can become sensitive to the building pressure of inner light.

When we are 'down' which is a part of the emotional cycle, do we use our insight to decipher a pattern and bide our time, or do we collapse into the drama of a previous story told? Do we articulate our feelings experiencing a healing with wisdom or do we stifle our screams deceptively smiling on the outside?

People follow our lead.  If we tell them our left arm is aching and it is really our right foot, no matter how hard they try, correction will not follow.  When we claim to be jubilant with tears streaming down our cheeks, we cultivate confusion.  It is when we value our authentic self we can address all sides of the equation with integrity.

Mountain of Fire

"In expressing her anger more directly, she 

would not only feel more authentic, but perhaps 

help her move her relationship out of stagnation 

into a more genuine intimacy."

Toko-pa Turner

The actions of others can trigger our emotions and if we choose to repress them, anger builds.  We may tell our lovely selves that we must be respectful and repress the resentment building within us. This may not be the best choice nor is it healthy.

If we are out of harmony, we can still speak with kindness without being argumentative.  As we air our opinion, we may irritate the listener, but isn't that more tolerable than building a mountain of fire?

If we acquiesce, does this not indicate approval and misdirect the speaker?  We will not be seen nor understood in our entirety if we do not show where we stand.  When we simply state our truth, we contribute to a healthy rapport supporting authentic relationships.