"For me, overwhelm and struggle were how I survived my childhood."
Bethany Webster
The Mother Wound
The holidays come with a bag of mixed emotions. Between what we repress and what we fail to offer, we find our lovely selves to be ungrounded and unbalanced ... shaming the self. Even when deep rooted trauma has been safely surfaced, triggers remain everywhere, whether it is santa, a Christmas tree or Holiday song.
"For me, overwhelm and struggle were how I survived my childhood. Feeling alert, scanning for crises and problems helped me feel safe. In the absence of a loving, present adult, I was hyper-vigilant. Like a little adult, I learned, 'I have to take care of everyone always.' It was a role I carried out diligently as I felt my survival depended on it. It caused me to become the 'good girl', the 'over achiever', and 'super woman'. The shadow side of this was that I didn't know how to rest, have good boundaries or say 'No'." This was written by Bethany Webster, author of The Mother Wound.
The competing thrust to buy materialistic goods acts as a buffer to our emotions. We distract ourselves with agendas and business. I have heard many women state they are never 'done' until there is no more time remaining. Exhaustion often follows which disallows us even further to effectively cope with what remains hidden. Create a small ritual to bring a sense of sacredness back into your soul. Light a small tea light every night before bed in honor of your life. Jot down three things you are grateful for or whisper a prayer of thanksgiving for being who you are. You are loved ... You are seen ... You are worthy ...
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