Forgetting ... Harder than Forgiveness

"To forgive yourself and others

constantly is necessary."

Anne Lamott

The farther we travel down our path, we find our perspectives shifting about things we have done or said.  In the moment, perhaps we felt right and maybe we were, but in the long run, being right may have done more emotional damage.  We cannot adjust the past, but we can learn from the errors of our ways and compensate by forgiving ourselves and others.

We can forgive others in the way we want to be forgiven.  We can look beyond the right or wrong and see the person who needs love and just how that gesture will alter his or her behaviors.  We can see our weakness in others  and instead of approving or disapproving, we can offer an open heart to listen and release.

Forgiveness is not as difficult as forgetting.  We may allow the perpetrator to walk away forgiven, but the damage is often clearly present.  It may be masked as something else, but until we follow forgiveness with forgetting, we will carry burdens preventing us from taking flight into the true happiness we deserve.