Fruitless Race

Today, I resolve not to change myself,

but to accept myself.

Today, I seek not to repress my nature,

but express it.

Julia Cameron

TRANSITIONS



We spend years trying to be like others, wearing the right clothes, landing the right job or joining the right organization.  All of this energy could be better invested in discovering our own authenticity.   Our fingerprints are unique just as our personality traits are  individually blended.  We are original and we must strive to fully become who we were meant to be.

Some where along the growth and development process, we finally give up the fruitless race of trying to be some one else.  We begin to focus on our own strengths and explore how they can be used to serve others in making the world a better place.

Even when we become successful in our own endeavors, we still do not  necessarily celebrate our unique abilities.  At the grocery store the other day, a woman caught her cart in a large produce wagon.  I noticed her struggling, so I walked over and said, "Here, let me help."  She immediately began apologizing for being so stupid, for not being more careful ... the tirade went on.   When the cart was finally dislodged, she gave me a huge smile and exclaimed, "You are the kindest person."  I immediately replied, "Not any kinder than you." She then immediately fell back into her tirade of berating herself.  Such a pity she was so uncomfortable with any compliment or any positive reflection of her very  lovely self.  I spoke with her a few more minutes.  I watched her almost cower as she talked and appeared to almost cringe with any kind word.  She avoided eye contact and seemed extremely awkward.  I could not help but wonder what part of life had beaten her so down. 

Some of us do not need enemies as we mentally badger our selves in spite of our goodness.  We minimize our accomplishments and become excruciatingly harsh if we miss just a step or two.  Our ego can be mean and cruel inside of our heads, leaving us devastated and depleted. 

When we become aware of the critic demeaning us, we need to turn the 'voice' off.  It is vitally important for us to be gentle and respectful with our selves.  If we do not treat our selves well, then why should any one else?  We must set an example of honoring our skills and respecting our unique place in this very large world.  There is a place of honor for everyone; really, there is plenty of room.