Called To Be Present

"Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”

Ann Landers

There are times we find our selves in an awkward position with a family member, neighbor, friend or co-worker, as they seek help with a particular problem.   We feel the need to supply them with helpful information to 'fix' whatever the problem may be.  If we cannot supply an immediate solution, we may take on their stress as well.

For some of us, it is easy to fall into the caretaker role and feel the need to fix others.  It is one thing to share knowledge and to be compassionate, and quite another to become overly involved in some one's  personal challenges.

Gary Zukav's most recent book, SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIP discusses how to make all of our communications and actions conscious and loving.  He suggests to first consult our intuition.  Check in with our selves to touch base with our most honest feelings.  Then be certain of our intention prior to speaking out.  Are we wanting to judge, gossip, or blame the person or do we sincerely care to respond. 

Take the time to explore our own wisdom.  Give sincere thought to what information resonates in compliance with our truths.  Our intuition coupled with appropriate intention will allow us to speak clearly from our higher self without focusing on an immediate quick fix. 

It is important to respond with "I" statements as the information being shared is what resonates within our own selves.  We want to share what is our own truth without giving direction or solution.  The other person who is listening, needs to gather such information and then decide what is for his or her own good.

We can display support without specific intervention.  We are called to be present, but not necessarily to be invested in the outcome.  We do not need to be attached to the other person's process.  This does not mean we do not have compassion.