In the Absence of Friends

"When someone loves you, the way they talk

about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable."

Jess C. Scott

When we hear the voice of a loved one, our bodies relax and we are soothed by the familiarity of the tone of their speech. When we experience this connection, the boundaries tend to fall away from us and our guards are let down.

When we do not hear the voices of loved ones and we are surrounded by silence, it is more difficult to keep our self concept crisp and colorful.  When our friends are not mirroring our image back towards us and we are not nurtured by other's kind remarks, we begin to waffle.

There is nothing more comfortable than the presence of a dear friend.  There is no pressure to project who we are and what we believe in.  We are already accepted, loved, and sincerely appreciated.  We embrace questions as we realize it is just for updating our preferences or what we have learned since last together.  In the absence of friends, we can place our hand over our heart and whisper to our absent friend ... "I love you and miss you, be well."