Release the Grip

"The only real battle in life is between 

hanging on and letting go."

Shannon L. Alder

The pressure of the holiday is passing, and we may feel relieved until we begin to rehash disappointment or sadness experienced during Christmas.  We may have had our feelings hurt or in hindsight, realize we have been misunderstood.  

Relationships can be painful, but as we enter them with an open mind, we can gain insight.  If we refrain from listening too closely, and embrace words as they are intended and not through personal perception, our exchanges can guide us more deliberately.

With a New Year approaching, we may choose to evaluate our personal choice of hanging on.  Perhaps the thought of letting go is too hurtful, so find a middle ground.  Release the grip, and be neutral until decidedly ready to let go.

 

 

The Lover's Cry

"Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another:

Why can't you see who I truly am?"

Shannon L. Alder

As I sat eating my dinner, I observed the man and woman several tables down from me.  By watching their interactions, my suspicions were validated.  Like my lovely self, these two people had aged which changed their appearance; however, their mannerisms remained the same.  I had not seen them for over 24 years!

The state monitor of my contract had been reviewing my cases for eight years.  As I sat across from her, I realized I had never really noticed the details of her face or the alignment.  It was as though I was viewing her for the very first time.  Ironically, I could have recited detailed information about her character, career, and personal life.

When we view an artist's canvas, we do not zero in on one particular aspect.  Our attention drifts across the painting as we are impacted by content, color, and skill.   By accepting the entire presentation, there is little room for judgment.   It is also true in relationship. The yearning is always to be seen in depth, not just on the surface.  "See me," is the lover's cry!