Redirection, Not Rejection

"Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another,

'I want to know why!'"

Shannon Adler 

If I don't show up, will anyone notice?  If discarded, can I be recycled?  What is the value of being taken for granted?  If I become lost, will anyone show me the way?  These are questions, of course, our little 'me' faces when we are not nurturing and nourishing our body, mind, and soul.

If we invest energy into our well being, we will be prepared for the carelessness and lack of sensitivity from others.  When we exercise discernment, we recognize what does not belong to us.  The false projections of others can be deflected through the sense of self-appreciation.

We all have value, but not everyone will be open to receiving it.  If we hold our standards high, protecting our gifts and talents, we can repel what is not appropriate for this particular time and space.  When there is discord, it is not really rejection but rather redirection.

The Pull of the Moon

"The moon will guide you through the night

with her brightness, but she will always

dwell in the darkness, in order to be seen."

Shannon L. Alder 

Since childhood, my communication with the full moon has been extraordinary.  I repeatedly track the phases of this lunar light as it some how aligns with my physical, mental and spiritual cycles. 

I feel her pull in my energy field and learn through her example to shine even in the midst of darkness.  She has been my dream catcher and my gateway to where I swing upon the stars.  The full moon is radiant in my heart, and her lunar phases guide me on my journey.

I identify as a Moon Child and I embrace my relationship with the stars.  Being a light worker, my energy continuously heightens and flows.  I can glow like the radiant full moon and twinkle like the stars. In the nocturnal lunar space is where my magic resides.

Side Stepping Darkness

"The most introspective of souls are often 

those that have been hurt the most.

Shannon Alder

Mentors have been pivotal at different stages of my life.  I will be forever in debt to those who took  the time to nurture, encourage, and allow my inner self to surface.  When I became aware of his or her own history, my ability and willingness to move forward increased.

Poets and authors who attracted my interest in early years were definitely challenged by life and did not hesitate to reflect his or her darkness.  Some creative expressionists wrote under a false name certainly to avoid blow back.

Journaling has been an ancient practice, not something 'new age'.  It has clearly been an outlet for self expression whether using words or drawings.  No one escapes the experience of life without being hurt to some degree.  If we create a place to release our inner wounds, the world is less likely to enclose us in darkness.

Give Upon Noticing the Need

"It is the apathetic person that sees the cause

while the charitable person sees the need."

Shannon L. Alder

Throughout my career, I was forever hearing professionals say, "It has been that way for years and it is never going to change!"  The word change can be very dramatic and costly, but also slight and unnoticeable.  Life is more positive if we can see a cause and use our creativity to impact change no matter how small.

It is difficult to watch a family who does not have a Christmas tree, no presents, and the smallest amount of food.  To instill hope, to teach trust, to offer human kindness  helps to elevate the family who had found themselves at the very bottom.

Professionals would gather from a loving community of friends holiday trimmings, gifts, and food.  It was easy to say these items were found as extras going to waste so that  family would not feel like a charity case.  Basic needs could usually be left without being noticed.  Leaving surprises on door steps, then running away is not limited to a very few.  Adults become loving children again extending such simple acts of kindness.  

The Listener and The Speaker

"The most important thing in communication is hearing

what isn't being said.  The art of reading between the lines

is a life long quest of the wise."

Shannon L. Adler

Conversations can be like playing dodge ball.  You kick a subject or a ball over to the other person, and in return they kick an entirely different subject or ball back to you.  This of course is a distraction from your train of thought and the other person's attempt to control the conversation.

Well intentioned, we ask a person how they are doing and they reply with information about a new car they just saw.  This is a coping skill to maintain a wall between what they are experiencing internally or emotionally and avoiding personal information.

When we are aware of these superficial conversations, we usually can sense the emotional level of the speaker regardless of the words not being spoken.  To protect themselves, eye contact is deliberately avoided, arms are crossed over the chest,  and endless questions will be volleyed in your direction so attention will be taken off of them.  All of this informs the listener to back off as the speaker is not yet prepared to face whatever is going on.  Respect this and hold them in prayer or light.