Silence or Roar

"There is complacency in our lives rooted

in the assumption that we will always have tomorrow."

Mitch Davidowitz

In our minds eye, we review an unfortunate circumstance which may lessen or increase feelings of anger, pain, and helplessness. The core wound will fester when we avoid confrontation. We tend to put off today what can be done tomorrow, but what if tomorrow never comes?

We may have perfect intention to resolve an issue, assuming there will be time to do so. It is natural not to prioritize dreaded confrontation. Too often, the core wound continues to fester as it has not been addressed. A minor insult, in time, can shift in our memories into a major diatribe 

Tomorrow may never come for a face to face, but this does not mean it cannot be healed. Power can be restored by expressing deep feelings in a letter which may or may not be shared. We can visualize a reenactment of forgiveness and simply let it go. It is through using our voice that we can release our emotions whether in silence or in a roar.

 

Runaway Train

"Another source of our drama are the assumptions we make

about other people. We need to ground these 'runaway trains

by checking out the illusion of them."

Mitch Davidowitz

Imaginary drama swirls our perception of truth. We begin to assume what others may be thinking, and our anger becomes turbulent like an unleashed force. We think we know the reactions of others even though they are not based in reality. Our engines are all fired up to run like a runaway train.

This kind of turbulance can be minimized once we realize our habit of assuming the worse. Instead of taking flight, we can stop right where we are and get grounded, releasing chaos in exchange for calm. We can silence the dialogue that in reality simply isn't happening. Once centered, we can explore truth, not the fallacies created in our mind.

Once we move from our mind and into our heart, a calmer scenario can be seen. Without blame or shame, we can see what is at the core of our reactions. At this point, we can explore a healthy way to respond that is respectful to ourselves and to all of those involved. By learning to calm the self, our perceptions shift and healthier decisions are made.