Scar Lingers

"The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have

a greater capacity to diminish us than exposed ones. They erode 

our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundations."

Cheryl Hughes

It is the nature of my character to forgive a betrayal or hidden truth, if it is voiced now with  the opportunity to be honest.  If the choice is to remain silent and I later give witness to the lack of  integrity, trust is broken and I will distance myself.

It would seem I have the tendency to try to understand the scenario that caused a person's lack of judgment.  There is a willingness for me to stand in his or her shoes to better understand what prompted said action.  

Ultimately, I focus on the ability to be truthful, rather than the information being shared. I am disheartened by the trivial misdirections and hidden agendas when there has been no reason to do so.  Forgiveness comes easily, but the scar on my heart lingers, indefinitely.

Undiscovered Lies

"The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a

greater capacity to diminish us than the exposed ones.  They erode

our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundation."

Cheryl Hughes

It is honorable to tell the truth even though it can be quite painful.  We may think it is easier to lie, but then the information expands like a spider web.  The omission is tightly knit at the center, and then additional attempts to hide a secret rope farther out and more precariously.  It becomes difficult to recall the original lie whereas the truth is always the same.

Certainly I imagined numerous falsehoods as a child, but I sincerely share that I have always leaned towards being a truth teller.  As someone confides information with me, I preempt it by saying, "If you tell me the truth right now, I will find a way to deal with it; but, if I am deliberately lied to and I later find out, there will be an ending to trust and all that accompanies it." I have remained accountable.

Often times, it is not the truth that hurts, but the disappointment in being betrayed.  Faith dissolved, solid ground crumbles beneath the feet and certainty becomes a bird flying out the window!  We all learn to tolerate degrees of truth telling, but I for one find being lied to as the first major step away from a loving relationship.