What You Have Not

"Do not spoil what you have

by desiring what you have not."

Ann Brashares

We make a list of 'toys' we so desperately want. When we graciously receive one, we simply cross it off the list, and begin pining for the next.  There is nothing wrong with anticipating the future, but we are not appreciating the present when we are constantly thinking: "the next bathing suit I have; the next apartment I live in; the next car I buy; or the next man I meet ..."  

There is importance in maintaining an awareness of the what is before us.  There is much to be said about living in the moment, as they are not forever either. "I wish I had told her; I wish I had used it more; I wish I had seen that first ..."

While attending a private college prep academy, I became very aware of a similarity between the wealthy style of life and mine.  The wealthy had cars, clothes, and huge homes, but they experienced the same loneliness within them that I also had. It was at this young age that I learned never to wish for someone else's life and to focus upon what was before me.

 

Grounded in Truth and Action

 

"She existed in her friends; there she was.

All the parts of herself she'd forgotten.

She knew herself best when she was with them."

Ann Brashares

We often isolate ourselves or confine interactions with a minimized audience.  It is when we stray too far away from  friends that we begin to forget parts of our selves.  When we are with those who love us, they kindle our fire making us shine.

It is interesting how we may choose one friend for deep confidences, while selecting a different companion for crazy fun.  It is the sister of the heart, however, one can be all parts in one.  We are embraced and supported ... the whole package.

And is that not the goal of life ... to learn to be present with our true self, open just as we are whether approved or not?  We need to have a willingness to change and a desire to learn, while remaining grounded in our truth and actions.  Let it be good to be you!