Wednesday, February 17, 2021

Knowing the Difference

 

 


"I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving,
obeying and respecting."
Eve Ensler

At an early age, we experience choices between what is expected of us and what we desire to do.  We all want to be loved and appreciated, but as one becomes a parent, definitions and boundaries shift.  One would think by the time one has aged, there would be one clear set of questions, responses and flexibility. This is not the case.

We still have the tendency to be a people pleaser, giving in out of habit rather than clarifying our choice. We want to respect others, and we want them to respect us; but unless we speak our truth, how will anyone know who we are?  

For harmony in life, we can use our voice or set examples in how we choose to live. We maintain respect for others while displaying respect for ourselves.  Genuine affection will come to us without having to buy outcomes.  If we find ourselves with unmet basic needs, perhaps this is a sign to move forward. Establish new gatherings with a more fulfilling exchange.

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