Elementary, My Dear?

"Everybody loves to talk about calm and peace

whether in a family, national, or international context,

but without inner peace how can we make real peace?

World peace through hatred and force is impossible."

 

The Dalai Lama

 

 

Years have passed, teaching me how to reduce drama in my life and how to act responsibly instead of simply reacting impulsively.  Life has shown me the difference between being selfish and meeting personal needs.  If I am nurtured and nourished, those around me well be impacted as well.

 

For some, it is challenging to discover what is involved in meeting a personal need.  When we develop a true sense of self, we can then give honor to our selves..  We no longer feel the desire to be self-sacrificing, a martyr or a victim.   Self-respect forms and lessens the dependency on others to meet our desires. 

 

When we do not have love for our selves, the experience of loving others is limited.  Through self-criticism we are weakened and cannot embrace life fully.  Criticizing others is a sure sign of discontent.  In learning how to accept personal weaknesses as well as strengths, we embrace the entire package and it is easier to accept the flaws and the skills of others. 

 

It is not easy, but it is worth the effort to create calm and peace in every day.  As we begin each day, balance it with work and play.  Reduce the stress of opposition, by surrounding the self with those who make us laugh or feel good about being who we are.  Minimize what is displeasing and maximize whatever brightens the day. 

 

Too remedial or elementary?  Step through that negative thought and find free will on the other side.  Begin again and again until inner peace and calm spread out into the world. We can do it!