Unasked advice is a trespass
on sacred privacy.
Author Unknown
Years ago, I had a friend who was a career focused single mother. She would rush home from a full day of high stressed work and into the demands of self-imposed elevated parenting expectations. In order to allow her self some personal space as she transitioned from her professional life into her personal arena, she would enter the home through the garage door grabbing a base ball hat for her head. The family knew that no one could ask or demand anything from their mother until she removed the base ball hat. Amazingly, it worked.
We all lead very busy lives, usually trying to meet the demands of both work and family. Even in retirement we are often called to be care givers to our extended family members. It is difficult to say no to requests when we are just trying to preserve some personal breathing space.
Perhaps we all need post-a-notes or stickers stating "No Trespassing". We could apply them either to our private journals or our hats. It would be a physical warning for others to respect our personal space. For those who are creative, they could embroider or paint little signs to hang on the door knobs to the rooms considered sacred space.
In our fast paced society, we all need a time out. Unfortunately, as adults, we don't have elders sending us to our rooms or to sit quietly in a corner reading a book. Sometimes our alone time is when we fall exhausted into bed long after our bedtime.
We are really talking about healthy boundaries. We cannot fault others when we fail to protect our time and space. By setting an example, our children or grandchildren will learn the importance to give self permission to be nurtured or alone. If we develop a strong sense of self, we will not only establish 'No Trespassing' in our personal arena, but in our
professional or social lives as well.
We all lead very busy lives, usually trying to meet the demands of both work and family. Even in retirement we are often called to be care givers to our extended family members. It is difficult to say no to requests when we are just trying to preserve some personal breathing space.
Perhaps we all need post-a-notes or stickers stating "No Trespassing". We could apply them either to our private journals or our hats. It would be a physical warning for others to respect our personal space. For those who are creative, they could embroider or paint little signs to hang on the door knobs to the rooms considered sacred space.
In our fast paced society, we all need a time out. Unfortunately, as adults, we don't have elders sending us to our rooms or to sit quietly in a corner reading a book. Sometimes our alone time is when we fall exhausted into bed long after our bedtime.
We are really talking about healthy boundaries. We cannot fault others when we fail to protect our time and space. By setting an example, our children or grandchildren will learn the importance to give self permission to be nurtured or alone. If we develop a strong sense of self, we will not only establish 'No Trespassing' in our personal arena, but in our
professional or social lives as well.
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