Confrontation and Speculation

"Confrontation is better than speculations."

Sunday Adelaja

Women tend to give the benefit of the doubt especially in relationships.  We make assumptions, based on our heart's desire.  We become so hopeful, we don't want to upset the apple cart by getting into exact details.  We avoid confrontations to allow situations to continue rather than define and come to a screeching halt.

Misunderstandings come into play when two involved people are on totally different pages.  One may be thinking, "Ah, this is great.  Lots of fun and no commitment!"  The other might be thinking, "Ah this is great.  Soon he/she will make a commitment!"  Both are defining the relationship upon how compatibility is the strong suit.

When we experience our inner voice getting tangled up with our ego, we really need to define what is going on.  If we have questions or doubts, our first response needs to be to our lovely selves.  What do I want? What is the truth in this moment?  Unfortunately, our automatic response is in the realm of not wanting to push or be aggressive.  In order  to be at our best, boundaries need to be created by using our own voice.