It's Hard To Tell

"People change and forget

to tell each other."

Lillian Hellman

1907 - 1984

American Playwright and Writer

When we return to our family of origin, we frequently fall back into our original role.  Even though it may be an unwelcome role, it tends to be more comfortable to play it, than to try to project our change.  Often when we meet old friends for a gathering, we slip into a script that was created early on.  We may discuss what is 'new' and yet never mention the growing passion in our hearts. 

Our friends who have become our family along the way, perhaps are close enough to detect our changes and may even encourage us to share.  It can be frightening to express our transitions, and yet liberating once explained. 

As we change, our point of reference gets altered as well.  We may shift our focus exposing us to new friends with similar interests.  As these relationships deepen, we have less time for others who had kept us company for so long.

Life is bittersweet.  While experiencing joy, we are sometimes called to release an old part of our selves to make room for complete fulfillment.  In order to gain, we are called to experience loss.  It is important to understand there is no right or wrong, no need for a drama or fictional saga.  It is a matter of releasing and embracing.

One does wonder why we forget to share our transformations.  Do we fear judgement or speculate we will be misunderstood?  Are we dishonoring our selves by not presenting an integration of what has been learned?  Is it a matter of hiding our selves or just being content?  We are all so different, it is hard to tell.