Perfection Is Abusive

 

"Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best."

Brene Brown

Staring at the ugly concrete wall with imperfections, the lovely flowers pushing through the cracks amazed me. They were brilliant and healthy, showing the world both beauty and resilience. They did not retreat into darkness, stunting growth. Perhaps they were trapped in the wall's darkness, but persevered to exist as they were meant to do.

If we desire the removal of our scars, we may lessen our uniqueness. Pain from judgment and shame creates wounds that carve our character. We will never be perfect, but stretching to improve our gifts to the world will enhance our happiness. It is through giving of our natural nature we become grateful and happy. 

Perfectionism is abusive as it can never be attained. It is a silent message to the self that we are not good enough, lack value, and need to be different in order to gain a successful life. When we take steps to improve who we are, take errors in stride, and believe in our own essence, life will help us shine.