Misleading the Universe

"If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision,

you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you 

for one thing and punish you for another."

Deepak Chopra

Decision making becomes compromised if we begin to think about what we should do. We have a sense in our heart as to what we want to do, but then it is sabotaged by thoughts of hurting others or making mistakes or simply being wrong.  We second guess ourselves, our boundaries ripple and we cave in changing the decision and finding ourselves seething.

I find this to be especially true with people who long to please others.  Inside, they clearly have a negative reaction to an invite, but they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.  A lengthy internal discussion follows about putting the wants and needs of others before the self and obliging others so they won't be hurt.  It seems like the 'christian' thing to do.

When we turn against our lovely selves, we do damage.  We hurt ourselves emotionally and warp well positioned boundaries.  We send out false impressions and then we have to match our behavior accordingly.  Then there is the angst within as we have let our selves down.  We have hurt our own feelings and disregarded personal needs.  Ultimately it is not the Universe that rewards or punishes us, we do that all by ourselves!