Secret Keeper or Space Holder

"To 'hold space'  for someone  means that we are willing to walk alongside

another person in whatever journey they're on without judging them, making

them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. 

When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer 

unconditional support, and let go of judgment and control."

Heather Plett

UPLIFT

There is a power in expressing our concerns that either reinforces or alters our thinking.  In order to do this, we need a safe space with someone whom we trust.  We desire the presence of someone who will not try to persuade or criticize or applaud us.  We just want to vent our feelings out loud.  To experience them without taking action or receiving repercussions.

The most effective tool in holding space for someone is knowing how to be present yet silent.  We are called to sit quietly, while our friend searches his heart or her soul.  Clearly, we do not hold the answers as the lesson is not ours.  Resolution is unique to us all, so silence is our gift.

If there is no one to trust or listen, we can allow our computer, binder or fancy journal to be our safe space.  The point is to eliminate everything from inside that is troubling us without impacting others.  When we have written or spoken and all stress is disbursed, we can burn the paper or save it for editing on a brighter day or hug our secret keeper for holding space.