Turning Point

"Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you 

to value and respect them in disguise.  When you look for deeper meanings

behind someone's pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others."

Shannon L. Alder

When we ignore our emotional stress, it settles into parts of our body and produces pain. If we still do not address our growing dis-ease, the emotional and physical aspects can create havoc disrupting the natural course of our body.  When we become exceptionally defensive with others, it is a clear sign of our avoidance and denial.  Defensiveness is a flag, alerting both ourselves and others to our need for attention.

If we choose to have supportive friends and environments, we will be able to share our debilitating feelings without fear of judgment.  We honor ourselves by sharing our deepest fears and initiate healing.  By reaching for medication or addictive behaviors (sleep, alcohol, exercise, shopping, obsessive involvement), we may temporarily numb our pain, but it will not heal it until we address it full on.

It is normal to feel sad when we experience loss of any kind.  Depression is natures way of slowing us down to have time to readjust to changing circumstances.   When we dishonor ourselves by forging ahead without appropriate resolve, clinical depression can settle in.  When we take the time to explore deeper meanings behind our emotional and physical pain, we will find ourselves approaching a turning point in our journey.